please don't call urself a "tranny," it's a very degrading word to label oneself! whether u are pre-op or post-op, u should ALWAYS treat urself better than that. unless u like being called that, then i wont correct u any further.. @_@
anyways enough of that, yes, a relationship lacking the physical component is quite hard. nowadays there are plenty of methods to remedy this problem via technology, like video call or skype, but sometimes it's just NOT the same as having them by ur side. some people are not cut out for LDRs and some manage really well. throwing in ur catch as being T, good partners are very hard to come by as well.
just hang in there girl!! i applaud the 8 yrs, and i pray that u both can meet up soon