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Sunniiee 05-20-2012 08:12 PM

Late, but still on my mind.
 
So,...to begin.
#1 There is this one girl who used to harass me constantly, she'd sneak on my facebook with her bf's account
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or something since I have mine private, to stalk my pictures and call me ugly.
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And she used to take joy in asking my ex-friends to "help her make fun of me''. I mean, come on, lol. How low is that? And she had the nerve to call me a HS dropout, when I am in honors classes, taking advantage of every AP class I can at my grade level, and yet HER BF is a straight-FAILURE student from FRESHMAN year who dropped out for an online game in which he spends his fast food salary to be a PvP/xbox bully 24/7. I go into a pvp area, he some how sniffs me out, and comes, no matter WHAT time it is. I go in at like, 1 am? He's there. I go in at 2 pm? he's there. etc etc.. She also dares to call me fake, when she's a fake-blonde wannabe-girl who people accused me of being. (She has been acting just like the people she accused me and an ex-friend of being, pretty ironic? Since she hated on them so much, and now acts just like them). This may be confusing...So I'll explain.
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And thus...I am just wondering...What is wrong with some people? Is it seriously that enjoyable to go around hating on people when you're not feeling good about yourself?


#2 I'm really getting confused...like, what do you do when you feel sad and don't want to tell people about it because you know they'll laugh at you or they'll just be troubled by whatever it is? And I'm not even just being paranoid about this, I'm sure that they'll laugh at me for it. Like, and when I don't act like 100% happy-tastic, they start going silent-iwanttoignoreyoukthx- attitude, then ask ME "what's wrong'', like, what about you? I'm just being kinda upset here, trying to keep out a fake smile to keep your mood all shinytastic and you give me the "k ty" "Lol." "Ye." 1-2 word responses and act all "I have nothing to do so I'm gonna ____." Hmm..what about talking to me?..Then it just so happens that they disappear the next day until you're about to go. And as usual, they're still all sunshine and rainbows... I've talked to a friend about this, but she says it's a misunderstanding...which I guess it is in a way? And this person said that they hate that I never tell them anything. Well hey. When I do, I get laughed at, so why the hell should I? Like, I really extremely care about this person, but they don't trust me enough to tell me anything either...so why are they complaining when I tell them plenty of stuff knowing I'll get the one-word-reply treatment or something like being laughed at.

#3 I'm sometimes a bit tough to get through to when it comes to arguments, since I do believe I am right a lot of the time, or give a better supporting argument than someone else does, at least. I will not make someone say "Ok, you're right" Or anything, especially if it's dealing with opinion, but what right have you to say that I always have to be right when I -submit- to you when I think you have good points, and you also are the one who never trusts me when I'm 100% sure I'm right (Such as something like a fact, while opinion cannot be right/wrong). Also, this person goes around ranting to people about it, which I totally should've expected since she kept ranting to me about people 24/7, even while i'm pretty busy with school I check my cellphone and she's going on about something completely idiotic calling those -other people- who make TINY mistakes the idiots. If it were irl, i'd tell her to stop wasting her breath. I also hate how people think I don't listen to them just because I voice a better supporting arguement than them, when they aren't doing anything but saying "Well I'm right anyway so that means you aren't listening to me" or something of the sorts. I ADMIT I KNOW I am not always RIGHT. But that does NOT mean you can say I'm ALWAYS WRONG when you're the one acting like you're Little miss perfect.

/endrant, sorry if it's confusing, just needed to get it out of my system.

Jessica 05-20-2012 08:37 PM

Didn't you just tell someone in another thread to not listen to what other people think of you?


Let them hate. There will always be a hater.

Sunniiee 05-20-2012 08:38 PM

Ty for noticing :> I think I do that a lot...but I mean the first thing happened a long time ago but it's still on my mind...I'm pretty much past it, but I'd rather get it completely out of my system just in case she bothers me again

Nebula 05-20-2012 11:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Settie (Post 1723544)
Didn't you just tell someone in another thread to not listen to what other people think of you?


Let them hate. There will always be a hater.

+1

I tend to be passive when it comes to drama, I try my best to keep out of it. However it still comes to me, and I am left to sort stuff out.
Anyways, if you end up in an argument, you your cools. If they don't agree with you and get something wrong, let the learn from their mistake.

At elementary school, I used to care what people thought of me. I used to easily get upset when I was teased. Those who I thought were my friends turned out not to be my friends.
Due to my lack of social experience in high school and elementary school, I am still learning what is right and wrong in a social sense. But I'm not a social outcast, people at college accept me for myself and I have gotten to know many people.
You're probably different to me, but we all need to find our own way.
And at point #1- everyone is beautiful in someone else's eyes. And well, they need to find out who they are and do the above, learn some social skills.

#2 Friends will listen and have the right reaction if they are friends. My friend would tell someone to see a counselor if they had major personal issues. But if it's serious, there's no point on laughing at you unless they can help you laugh it off.

Sunniiee 05-22-2012 08:28 PM

Sorry for the late reply, thanks a lot L ^^ I think I need to work on being more passive when it comes to small arguments, but so far I'm doing much better at staying out of them in the first place.

Zero 05-22-2012 11:08 PM

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Originally Posted by xRainfallx (Post 1724311)
Sorry for the late reply, thanks a lot L ^^ I think I need to work on being more passive when it comes to small arguments, but so far I'm doing much better at staying out of them in the first place.

Just tell her you're packing heat. Problem solved.


:py65:

Sunniiee 05-23-2012 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Zero (Post 1724368)
Just tell her you're packing heat. Problem solved.


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I hope you mean the weapon. xD

Chastity 05-24-2012 04:22 PM

Hey Lita,
~1. I know you probably heard this a lot but looks aren’t everything. Just because someone is pretty does not mean that they have a good heart. Think about this…would you rather be beautiful and be completely heartless? Someone who you know guys only go for because they’re “hot”? And also everyone is beautiful in their own unique way. You can easily be beautiful for having a pure heart who cares about others. I'd tell you not to think about it but I know it will be hard to.

~2. It seems like she is one of those type of people who talk to others in a derogatory manner to make herself feel better. Ever read Harry Potter? She’s doing something similar here – she wants you to feel alone. Like you have no friends. It’ll be easier to hurt you this way. The ONLY reason why all her “friends” are taking it out on you is probably because they’re afraid of receiving the same treatment from her as well.

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what do you do when you feel sad and don't want to tell people about it because you know they'll laugh at you or they'll just be troubled by whatever it is?
If they are going to laugh at you for it – don’t bother. They aren’t your friends. If they’re troubled by it then they’re only worried for you. And sometimes it’s nice to share your burden with others.

I don’t know much about the people you talk to your problems to…but I know from personal experience when you start losing the happy person you normally are they don’t know how to react to that. They’re not purposely giving you this “silent-iwanttoignoreyoukthx- attitude”. (If they are..they’re not very good friends..) Sometimes seeing a new side of someone – it’s hard to deal with. You don’t know what to do – so you stay silent. You want to help but you don’t want to make things worse.

~3. Have you ever been on facebook and you see that one status “Realizing you’re wrong in the middle of an argument but you argue anyway”. It’s human nature to like being correct. No one likes being wrong. But the one thing about this that is flawed is people cannot simply force their friends to change their opinion just because they don’t agree with theirs.

Btw – I’m terrible at wording out what I’m thinking. But in debates it is usually whoever can have the better argument is correct. (Much like court, yes?) However that doesn’t mean you are correct, it just means you’re good at debating. So that does infuriate me from time to time when people think they have a better argument simply because they are better at speaking.

Sunniiee 05-24-2012 04:28 PM

You're not terrible at wording ^^ thanks a lot though I think I see what you mean~ c: And anything helps, it's just nice knowing there's people out there who kinda understand.


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