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So my brother recently had a really bad break up, I've been talking some sense into him but I don't think he's in the mind frame of processing any incoming information. I've had one break up before and I recovered really quickly without feeling too depressed @_@ It was nothing like what he's going through at the moment, so I really don't know what I can do for him.
Any suggestions how I might be able to help him? Talking sense into him is totally not working Q_Q"
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It may take more time than you think, or it could take less - everyone deals with things differently, so you can't know for sure what will help him.

If it were me, I wouldn't want to be tip-toed around or treated differently. Act normal, maybe do things with him to take his mind off the break-up.
 
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Ah ohk ^_^ yea i wouldn't either, I'll just be normal then =o
My words probably wouldn't be powerful to him anyway, since I'm the younger one DD=
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When me and my sister were closer, she'd still come to me despite her being 3~4 years older.
Just having someone there that understands, or who is willing to listen is always nice, so being younger or older wouldn't matter really.
 
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When me and my sister were closer, she'd still come to me despite her being 3~4 years older.
Just having someone there that understands, or who is willing to listen is always nice, so being younger or older wouldn't matter really.
Yea age difference doesn't really matter, my sister who is 9 years older than me have recently talked about her relationship problems with me.

Hmm.. I can't really give any tips... >:
Maybe just let him know that if he feels like talking about it, you're there to hear him out.
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It may take more time than you think, or it could take less - everyone deals with things differently, so you can't know for sure what will help him.

If it were me, I wouldn't want to be tip-toed around or treated differently. Act normal, maybe do things with him to take his mind off the break-up.
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Best thing you can do is to help him keep his mind off of it for the short-term, in the long-term he will tackle it when he's ready.
Also, talking sense works for some people and for others it does not. He could just need a friend to talk too and open up his pain. Just do your best to act normally, reassure him, and one day he might open up to you!
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Do what bros (literally for you) do. Chill out. You can't make him forget the pain of being heart broken but you can help ease the pain for him. Get his and your buddies and go somewhere. Hint hint, take him out to strip club.
 
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So my brother recently had a really bad break up, I've been talking some sense into him but I don't think he's in the mind frame of processing any incoming information. I've had one break up before and I recovered really quickly without feeling too depressed @_@ It was nothing like what he's going through at the moment, so I really don't know what I can do for him.
Any suggestions how I might be able to help him? Talking sense into him is totally not working Q_Q"
Why would you talking sense to someone who had recently gone through a break up?

It's natural for people to feel depressed after a bad break up as you said it yourself. So the only you can do is leave him alone and let him deal on his own. It's his break up. Not yours. He's probably still in love with his significant other. You just can't force people to recover quickly after a break-up. ESPECIALLY a bad one.

I know you mean well, I think. But dude.. c'mon. Give him some space.

So in other word, the thing you can do now is leave him the f- alone. You don't want to make things worse. I'm saying this because I've experience this shit myself and it cost me a friend.

He'll get better in time. But don't pretend like nothing happened though.
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^lawlz i wish it was that simple. He's at a state where he wants attention tbh
not giving a shit about it is this easy for me ~~~> | | (try walk over this gap.)

He plans on trying to get back with her next time he sees her in real life. I tried talking sense into him again. Seems he is quite determined so I probably can't and shouldn't stop him. From personal experience there are just certain things in life that you wouldn't be able to learn unless you hit your head against the brick wall hard and know that it actually hurts. I just hope he knows what he's doing and could deal with his emotions wisely.
I've been doing all the things that you guys said, spend some time with him, talk when he's in the mood, generally acting normal etc. He doesn't feel much from it but at least it's not worsening it
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Just like the others, I agree that u should take his mind of it first do sum thing fun or anything. Avoid the topic and let's just hope he won't take it too hard if the girl won't take him back if ever..

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