What attracts you in the other person?

[Vixen]

Someone who's hilarious and that they can show their emotions.. hate this crap when boys think they can't cry otherwise it's gay @_@

Also someone that can be completely childish sometimes while being really romantic some other times~

iluAlejandro<3

[Marzai]

I've been so disarrembokulated in my thinking to even considering what I wanted in a woman.

Full of hugs; humorous character, but doesn't like small talk; bubbly, but not ditzy; a little shy; nice legs; cute, not sexy; enjoys watching me play video games like watching a movie; would play with me; a gardening pro; faithful, not a worrywart; loyal, not a slut; not overbearing or domineering; will keep me on the right track; supports my career;

As for bust or butt... Why choose?

This...will be hard to find.

[Aimee]

^ Not looking for too much then, lol :P

[Marzai]

No, I guess not. ._. But is there much to look for in the first place?

[SOC]

Originally Posted by Marzai

Full of hugs; humorous character, but doesn't like small talk; bubbly, but not ditzy; a little shy; nice legs; cute, not sexy; enjoys watching me play video games like watching a movie; would play with me; a gardening pro; faithful, not a worrywart; loyal, not a slut; not overbearing or domineering; will keep me on the right track; supports my career;

As for bust or butt... Why choose?

This...will be hard to find.

Me and you both like the "oldschool" women who are very supportive and domestic. It's a shame that I think they're very very hard to find nowadays. Most women hate being "dependent" and want to make their own career and do everything themselves. Which is fine, of course, but...

Bust AND butt. ;D (like ur mom lolol)

[miuchan]

What attracts me in the other person? Humour. Laughing 'til you can't breathe = good. XD

Originally Posted by SOC

Me and you both like the "oldschool" women who are very supportive and domestic. It's a shame that I think they're very very hard to find nowadays. Most women hate being "dependent" and want to make their own career and do everything themselves. Which is fine, of course, but...

Bust AND butt. ;D (like ur mom lolol)

My boyfriend thinks that I'm pretty dependent. He says that I should stop asking him to do my homework. Like jeez, it's only 15 questions pertaining to personality disorders.

LOL. I'm kidding... >>;

I'm not like that at all. D:

[PedroRomero]

Originally Posted by SOC

Me and you both like the "oldschool" women who are very supportive and domestic. It's a shame that I think they're very very hard to find nowadays. Most women hate being "dependent" and want to make their own career and do everything themselves. Which is fine, of course, but...

Bust AND butt. ;D (like ur mom lolol)

i feel like there's a balance. I like people who are independent but I think that's fine when she's single. when she gets with me she should know she can depend on me and what not

[SOC]

Originally Posted by PedroRomero

i feel like there's a balance. I like people who are independent but I think that's fine when she's single. when she gets with me she should know she can depend on me and what not

The question is, though, how to get her to depend on you? A lot of girls are afraid of that unless you show them true commitment, and some only give that commitment IF YOU FREAKING ENGAGE THEM AND NOTHING ELSE!

*Mumble grumble....*

I've had 7 girlfriends my entire life, I started dating when I was 13, my first girlfriend was 2 years, my second was 3 months, my third was 2 years, my fourth was like 3 weeks lol, my fifth was 10 months, my sixth was 3 months, and my 7th was 11 months.

Every single one of them except one required a heavy amount of commitment that most people aren't comfortable with giving before they got "dependent."

However, I'm a firm believer you should only date girls that you feel you could potentially marry someday. That doesn't mean you have to marry every girl you date, but if you don't think you can marry them someday, then don't date them at all.

[PedroRomero]

Originally Posted by SOC

However, I'm a firm believer you should only date girls that you feel you could potentially marry someday. That doesn't mean you have to marry every girl you date, but if you don't think you can marry them someday, then don't date them at all.

i agree completely. i used to date ppl all the time "casual" as they say. but then one day i was in a long relationship and i couldn't see it being long term and i couldn't figure out why the heck i was still in it. i also came to that conclusion you just said. Ever since that relationship I've been living with that same motto. It saves a lot of heart break and waste of time for both parties. Truly.

I've been single ever since though. ahaha i'm no where near being ready to be married though so it isn't too bad.

[Marzai]

My priorities are too screwed up to date anyone. I'm undependable, forgetful, neglectful, and somewhat selfish. Unless I like you.

I'm a firm believer of "good things come to those who wait," so I'm just gonna sit on my perch, fold my wings, and wait for the type of woman I described before (or of few of those traits) to come to me.

Or I just may fly into her on fate's accident.

At the moment, however, I'm in desperate need of companionship. It's kinda lonely when your best friends move away...

[SOC]

Desperate needs lead to unforgettable disasters and much pain, suffering, and sorrow to many others than just your self.

Never date someone 'cause you're desperate. I learned that quite the hard way on my 5th girlfriend, and a lot of people were hurt outside of just me and her.

But I'm sure you already knew that, right!? :P

[Marzai]

Originally Posted by SOC

Desperate needs lead to unforgettable disasters and much pain, suffering, and sorrow to many others than just your self.

Never date someone 'cause you're desperate. I learned that quite the hard way on my 5th girlfriend, and a lot of people were hurt outside of just me and her.

But I'm sure you already knew that, right!? :P

Yep. Knew that. I've already had my unforgettable disaster and pain. But now I'm a firm believer of "good things come to those who wait." So I'm waiting for her. I'm done searching. After all, I wouldn't want anyone to date me out of desperation, or even pity. That would (more on topic) definitely steer me away from any girl that wants to date right after her recent break up.

[PedroRomero]

Originally Posted by Marzai

Yep. Knew that. I've already had my unforgettable disaster and pain. But now I'm a firm believer of "good things come to those who wait." So I'm waiting for her. I'm done searching. After all, I wouldn't want anyone to date me out of desperation, or even pity. That would (more on topic) definitely steer me away from any girl that wants to date right after her recent break up.

definitely. i'm not down for a rebound

[SOC]

Well, I believe there are two kinds of people out there when it comes to finding the right "one."

The searchers and the waiters.

I'm definitely a searcher, I can't sit still and wait. I feel like the longer I take to find her, the more pain and suffering she's going through as she's waiting for me. I can't ever give up, I can't ever stop, I can't ever slow down, I gotta' find her.

Waiters understand that they can't just date anyone nilly willy and wait for that right person that attracts them naturally.

[PedroRomero]

i'm definitely a waiter then. but that also makes it seem like someone could just as easily pass me by

[JustinBieber]

ass+boobs

:V

[SOC]

Originally Posted by PedroRomero

i'm definitely a waiter then. but that also makes it seem like someone could just as easily pass me by

Always be your self, no matter what. Otherwise, your one will look at you and go "that's not my Pedro!" and walk on by.

[Hykari]

SEX! No, j/k (lol).

I haven't a clue on what actually "attracts" me in another person. The majority of the relationships I've been in were pretty much one-sided (i.e. someone liking me and me having to find a "legit/genuine" reason to return those same feelings). It's also pretty hard for them to open up to me, even though I ask lots of questions relating to specific interests and hobbies (overall compatibility is key for successful, long-term relationships). I pretty much gave up on looking for a serious one, because I don't want to have the feeling that I'm the only "party" putting the majority of effort into it (even though I'm not usually responsible for initiating the courting phase).

[1stsim144]

Originally Posted by Prophet

SEX! No, j/k (lol).

I haven't a clue on what actually "attracts" me in another person. The majority of the relationships I've been in were pretty much one-sided (i.e. someone liking me and me having to find a "legit/genuine" reason to return those same feelings). It's also pretty hard for them to open up to me, even though I ask lots of questions relating to specific interests and hobbies (overall compatibility is key for successful, long-term relationships). I pretty much gave up on looking for a serious one, because I don't want to have the feeling that I'm the only "party" putting the majority of effort into it (even though I'm not usually responsible for initiating the courting phase).

Sex first then search the quality. Lol

Yeah.. That's who I am. *pokes bold part* It sucks.

[Nimera]

First thing that grabs my attention is hair, I like it longer and kind of like, Kurt Cobainesque (which my boyfriend happens to be ohoho), similar interests because it can be hard for me to open up and once we hit that spot where it's like "omyg where have you been all my life". I never had a guy who like, instantly attracted me and shared many interests (music, we're both video game nerds), and we really ended up complementing each other's personalities a lot.

tl;dr hair and similar interests

Originally Posted by SOC

However, I'm a firm believer you should only date girls that you feel you could potentially marry someday. That doesn't mean you have to marry every girl you date, but if you don't think you can marry them someday, then don't date them at all.

also felt like commenting on this. I agree in a sense. I feel that every relationship you start with the intention of them maybe being "the one". What's the point in casually dating, cause then it's kind of just like... it's more of a friends with benefits situation if you aren't contemplating commitment. It's like, why bother? And even if you want to learn about yourself and what you need in a relationship, you honestly won't learn unless you learn what you want in a long-term committed. (potential marriage) relationship unless you give every single relationship 100%. Like SOC said, it could be a few months or a few years, but if you don't give it your all, you won't learn.