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CountBlood 06-27-2008 01:26 PM

Un-Healthy "friendship"
 
Anyways MY friend and me always seem to argue with each other. There use to be a time when we got along. But after we dated for a short short while. Everything turned upside down. Shes always pissed over something i do, and expects me to instantly know what i did.I've told her I'm not the smartest guy, but she assumes me to know every thing i do wrong, even minor crap.. at one point We stopped talking to each other for a couple of days. But being who i am i couldn't stop talking to her. I know i get angry easily, but i cant stay angry either (some people think that is a blessing) but when she gets pissed she stays that way..
Anyway What should i Do? :omg:

Amanda 06-27-2008 01:29 PM

I really don't know =x
I kinda have a similar problem like yours.

Khmer2k1d5 06-27-2008 01:30 PM

Turn around and walk away slowly, then turn back around and get in her face about all that she's done wrong.


"Dammit! How the hell am I supposed to know your dumba- wouldn't like that?!"

"I know you like it before, WTF is wrong now?"

"You turned me over, now it's time to rape you."

Take all but the last seriously.

Cornflake 06-27-2008 01:36 PM

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Originally Posted by CountBlood
Shes always pissed over something i do, and expects me to instantly know what i did.I've told her I'm not the smartest guy, but she assumes me to know every thing i do wrong, even minor crap..

I'm pretty sure all girls are like this. You'll get used to it.

CountBlood 06-27-2008 01:36 PM

That is it She really doesn't do anything wrong except assume i know every possible thing i do. And if we do stop being friends it would be hard to avoid each other since she uses this forum and trickster too =/

PedroRomero 06-27-2008 01:53 PM

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Originally Posted by CountBlood (Post 26694)
she uses this forum and trickster too =/

uh... then is this the right place to be discussing it?

NoeJeko 06-27-2008 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Cornflake (Post 26693)
I'm pretty sure all girls are like this.

QFT, but it applies to most human - not just girls - and you don't always have to "just get used to it". Communication is key to everything. A lot of the time, the person doesn't even realize they are doing this. It is, however, not wise to bring this up when you're arguing. Wait until the argument blows over and talk to them about it. Let them know you can't read their mind. You want to talk about things that upset them, but you need them to tell you exactly what's wrong.

From experience, if you can successfully negotiate this, your communication will be infinitely better and you can avoid a lot of conflict because you talk to each other about things more.

JC 06-27-2008 02:19 PM

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Originally Posted by CountBlood (Post 26675)
Anyways MY friend and me always seem to argue with each other. There use to be a time when we got along. But after we dated for a short short while. Everything turned upside down. Shes always pissed over something i do, and expects me to instantly know what i did.I've told her I'm not the smartest guy, but she assumes me to know every thing i do wrong, even minor crap.. at one point We stopped talking to each other for a couple of days. But being who i am i couldn't stop talking to her. I know i get angry easily, but i cant stay angry either (some people think that is a blessing) but when she gets pissed she stays that way..
Anyway What should i Do? :omg:

I agree, but be sure that this person is a friend first. Sometimes they can overstep boundaries. There's a fact in life that friends are very likely to help you through some of the shittiest moments in your life, and that's why some can be like this, to help you for such things. When it comes to morals, I strongly disagree with "help" like hers. You can't really change a person, which is what she may be trying to do to you, I don't know; but she can't change what you are to an extent that'd suit you as "perfect". It'd have to be something detrimental to be accepted, otherwise you're just being conformed to this one person's views and morals.

I can't really be certain if this is unhealthy or not. To me, the unhealthy relationships I've seen involved abuse physically for when things go sour, and repeated attention whoring that wouldn't let up from being accustomed to it and vice versa. . That's when you know that they need to change, or you, if it applies to you.

CountBlood 06-27-2008 03:01 PM

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Originally Posted by DukeDevlin (Post 26713)
uh... then is this the right place to be discussing it?

Well i didn't know where else to go to.. plus it was a in the moment thing :cool:
But I guess I could take some of what you guys told me thanks.. I'll try talking to her later :o


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