Being unintelligent sucks
I honestly have no real idea what to put as title, so I just came along with this one..
I kind of had a conversation with an adult whose obviously more experienced than me.
And yeah, he became all prejudging, predicting people's future, including mine, etc.
With judging comes the offending part as well.
The truth hurts.. I guess? Whatever, coming straight to point, so he told me that whatever I do, I will never have success in my life. Sure, I go to school, get my grades and stuff but I will never make it in life (successful in career). He told me that whatever I'm learning at school, it's full of rubbish that doesn't have to do with reality. At this point I'd like to say, that that guy can not really spell words correctly (no education..just sayin'). But I can tell for sure, he may not be educated but he's not one of those "foolish" kind of people, he's sneaky and "intelligent" I'd say. He did make it to something even though he's not educated.
Now, he tells me that I am definitely not one of those "intelligent" people. I am foolish, because I am merciful, immature, gullible and don't really dare to risk something. I am weak, he said. To cut it short, I was born as good girl but not an intellectual one and that's the reason why I will never be successful.
I mean I could care less about this guy's opinion but the thing is, he's right, I'm not really intelligent, I am clumsy, forgetful, a little slow and not really efficient to practical problems.. I'm always the loser in a serious argumentation (I'm very bad in reasoning my arguments)... yeah I don't believe I have a high IQ. The only proof why I'm not a 100% dumbass are my school grades, but I work for them. Hard working get good school grades and stuff in my case.
But I'm also aware that school has barely to do with the work in a company, so I'm now really pondering whether it's worth it, aiming my old dreams, like studying after I finished school and stuff... I mean BECAUSE I know, I'm not intelligent..... Now I'm back to the question which I had previously in one of my blogposts:
"Does only the sneaky, liars and cheater win in life, who make somebody's gullibility to their own advantage?"
Because I'd probably be the one who wouldn't win in life (career-wise I mean).
He recommended me to look for a nice guy to marry and become a housewife before it's too late.. but that's definitely not what I want!!!
I feel like my goals and dreams are crumbling... I'm down, but I don't want you guys to cheer me up, I just want to read some honest opinions.
I know some people within the top 1% of people when they finish high school. Some are very bright but lack other skills. Others are just amazing as they work hard and have incredible time management skills along with their brains.
And then you also learn about time management, self control and what hard work feels like. Along with this, you are able to pick up any social skills. School is also an environment where you can make mistakes and fix them up. I believe all these skills are needed for corporate work or.. any job.
At the moment, you just lack a little confidence. In some ways this person has destroyed it. It will thus take a while to repair. Try and find some people who will support you and believe in you. It could be parents, a teacher, friends, etc. Try and make it someone who you will listen to and have respect for. Someone could tell you to do things like make timetables many times but you may not listen as it is not the right person.
So just try and regain some confidence in yourself and remember what is good about you. Do not let anyone bring you down :D. I believe you have many qualities that will help you succeed.
I am not religious but you could answer this question from that point of view. Those that do not cheat, lie, etc will be the ones who have the better afterlife. But even now; if you do not cheat, lie, etc; you will have more respect within life.
Best of luck :D
I don't know how much older this guy is but you need to remember, as what Nebula said, people perceive success differently.
What might have been successful 50 years ago, something like a part-time job earns more nowadays. Times are changing and people see success in different things based on what era they grew up in.
If you're working hard to get good grades in school you only need to continue that attitude to get good grades in college/university or whatever you plan on doing in the future.
Not everyone is as "intelligent" as the next person, but everyone has the ability to work hard in whatever it is they're doing and no one should be able to put you down for that.
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