Was nervous yet excited when was going to be a parent, but that isn't the case anymore and leaves both of us discouraged and saddened to heal up from pain.
No, not married.
Why does it have to be marriage? What about the Man-Man and Woman-woman people? "How do you feel when they know there's sperm from someone else in you, and I can't have rights because its not my eggs?
or "How can you use a surrogate and I won't have rights to the kid either?"