Also, don't be afraid to use block if someone's being annoying. Had some random person I don't know msg my bard and start begging me to grind with them. I was doing other stuff, and after I politely told them that and they kept on, I just blocked them. That kept me from having to deal with their constant whining/begging.
Still wondering how in the world they found me to msg though, as I was on the Christmas Tree map at the time. Q_Q